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   Bethany Black (bethanyblack@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 15-Dec-2023 21:44:18 JST Bethany Black

   Here’s a weird thing about my job: most of my social media presence except here and on my private facebook account is part of my job. And yet, explaining that to family and friends “if you know me in real life, PLEASE don’t follow me on my work pages, and if you do DO NOT INTERACT with the posts” is an impossible task. They are always ready to destroy the public image I try to maintain, or to use in jokes, or mention private things that reveal too much about me and my location

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     Bethany Black (bethanyblack@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 15-Dec-2023 21:57:19 JST Bethany Black

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     The amount of people who’ll go “how are you I was hanging out with [my mum and dad’s names] at their house in [village name] they were telling me about [stuff I’ve signed an NDA about and can’t mention publicly] we’re all so proud, next time we’re in [the village of 280 people I live in] we’ll pop by are you still at [house number]” under a video of mine doing stand-up about pornography with a link to tickets for my tour show is UNREAL

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     Bethany Black (bethanyblack@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 15-Dec-2023 22:10:16 JST Bethany Black

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     So I’ll be reading through the posts and it’ll be
     Stranger: [slur]
     Stranger: haha!
     Stranger: [Name of someone who’d like the bit]
     Stranger: [slur and death threat]
     Someone I know: [whole string of identifiable information]
     Stranger: [slur, death threat, link to group where everyone wants me dead]

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     Bethany Black (bethanyblack@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 15-Dec-2023 22:20:13 JST Bethany Black

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     • Nonya Bidniss 🥥🌴

     @Nonya_Bidniss right? It’s an endless fucking nightmare when people don’t know, understand or respect boundaries

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     Nonya Bidniss 🥥🌴 (nonya_bidniss@mas.to)'s status on Friday, 15-Dec-2023 22:20:14 JST Nonya Bidniss 🥥🌴

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     @BethanyBlack 🤦♂️ When I decided on anonymity on the internet I initially let a couple of work friends know about an account (years ago, long defunct) and that is exactly the kind of dumb shit they'd do, and I'd have to ask them to delete their post. Lesson was never let anyone I know about any accounts on the internet. Easier for me as a nobody who knows almost nobody, than for you who needs a public presence.