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   Rejin (rejinl@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 28-Nov-2023 09:04:59 JST Rejin

   • Sabrina✨

   @ryanhoulihan maybe just say they look great?

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     🜏 Osric Dog 🜏 (osric@terberlo.dog)'s status on Tuesday, 28-Nov-2023 09:17:11 JST 🜏 Osric Dog 🜏

     • Sabrina✨

     @ryanhoulihan@mastodon.social
     hmm, this seems to apply to some other types of compliments, too.
     
     For example, "You look great in that shirt" vs "That shirt looks great on you" and "You have such great ideas" vs "I love your idea"
     
     subtle!

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     Robotron 2084 (robotron@esoteric.party)'s status on Tuesday, 28-Nov-2023 09:17:15 JST Robotron 2084

     • Sabrina✨

     @ryanhoulihan you can tell me I look great for my age tho it's very welcome

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     LA Legault 🍉 (lalegault@newsie.social)'s status on Tuesday, 28-Nov-2023 11:09:15 JST LA Legault 🍉

     • Sabrina✨
     • Eilonwy

     @ryanhoulihan @eilonwy

     Why say either?

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     Tanya Kasim (tanyagkasim@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 28-Nov-2023 12:01:12 JST Tanya Kasim

     • Sabrina✨

     @ryanhoulihan I so agree with you that we don't need to needlessly mention someone's ag as if it's a qualifier or context- for beauty or anything else. There is that ageism when it comes to looks here, too.

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     bluewave (bluewave@social.vivaldi.net)'s status on Wednesday, 29-Nov-2023 01:29:18 JST bluewave

     • Sabrina✨

     @ryanhoulihan
     Or just say "Wow, you look great."
     There's no need to add qualifiers.

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     redbanjer 🪕 (redbanjer@mindly.social)'s status on Monday, 04-Dec-2023 02:38:58 JST redbanjer 🪕

     • Sabrina✨

     @ryanhoulihan
     I think it's like saying "You're smart... as a woman." It's no different than saying "You're smart for a woman."
     Always just say "You look great!" or "You're smart!"... because that really simply means you're a smart or great looking PERSON. It's a true compliment without implying any qualifier.