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   Drew DeVault (drewdevault@fosstodon.org)'s status on Friday, 24-Nov-2023 04:24:23 JST Drew DeVault

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   • Adam Blažek

   @xigoi honestly those sexual jokes are often inappropriate even among men. Complimenting women is appropriate, until it's weaponized in a creepy way.

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     Adam Blažek (xigoi@social.filik.eu)'s status on Friday, 24-Nov-2023 04:24:31 JST Adam Blažek

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     @drewdevault Thank you for your response!
     Re treating everyone the same: I've always tried my best to do that. I believe that gender neutrality should be the default. But there are situations where treating women the same as men would be inappropriate, such as compliments or sexual jokes. And thinking about it, isn”t it precisely the equal treatment that naturally leads to having women only as friends?

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     Drew DeVault (drewdevault@fosstodon.org)'s status on Friday, 24-Nov-2023 04:24:32 JST Drew DeVault

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     • Adam Blažek

     @xigoi thanks for sharing this feeling with me. If you'd like to know my experiences, just forget about men and women and treat everyone the same: with kindness, friendship, and respect. Put yourself in social situations -- join a club, perhaps -- that make you happy, and share that happiness with the people around you regardless of their gender. Then romance will come, and great platonic friendships, too, and your relationships -- all of them -- will be more meaningful for it.

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     Adam Blažek (xigoi@social.filik.eu)'s status on Friday, 24-Nov-2023 04:24:34 JST Adam Blažek

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     @drewdevault I’ve been sad for quite a few years about being unable to find a romantic partner. I have looked for advice in many places and a lot of it seems to contradict each other. One of the main issues I’m unsure about is how to reconcile the need to actively talk to and ask out women with their right to not receive unwanted male attention.

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     Drew DeVault (drewdevault@fosstodon.org)'s status on Friday, 24-Nov-2023 04:24:35 JST Drew DeVault

     Men, what are some of your anxieties, insecurities, and problems you're dealing with and wish you had support for? Feel free to reply privately.