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   skjadul (skjadul@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 29-Oct-2023 19:36:55 JST skjadul
   I have a male friend who studied to be something like a "geriatrics assistant nurse" (i don't know the correct term in English). He worked at a nursing home for a week, before the COVID started spreading and he was sent home, just days before the lockdown.
   
   First day: He had to wake up a elderly woman... who was TERRIFIED of men.
   He expressed his concerns and asked for other things to do but was told that he had to do it.
   As you can imagine, when she saw him she started panicking, kicking and screaming and tried to get away from him, almost falling off the bed.
   
   He complained to his supervisor and other staff, and all of them dismissed his complaint. Seems like some of them found it funny.
   
   Yesterday, as we were on the phone talking about it, I told him that that's one of the reasons for same sex care and single sex wards. Men should not be working caring for women.
   
   He asked (teasing me) "What if I identify as a woman", so I told him that he would still be a man AND a dick.
   [He told me that he finds the self ID shit so dumb that he can't believe how is it possible that so many people believe in it. I said that it's a cult.]
   
   I told him about some of the cases of elderly and disabled women who have been raped in nursing homes and clinics by male workers/doctors/nurses/caregivers. And that I will send him all the receipts.
   
   Maybe that poor woman who was terrified of men was a victim of a previous caregiver.
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     HebrideanHecate (hebrideanhecate@spinster.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 29-Oct-2023 19:36:55 JST HebrideanHecate

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     @skjadul Women should always have the chance of purely female care, men are not at risk from women so female nursing men is a different thing, but if they prefer it and there are male staff then they should get that, dignity in care is paramount, as well as safety. We had male and female care where I last worked, so both sexes could access their own. I always called in one of the blokes for things like shaving and that, I was too scared of cutting someone, after all, what experience did I have of shaving my face.

     One time when I was hospital and not allowed out of bed I so needed a pee, rang bell and it was a male nurse who answered it, told him situation and he said I’ll go and get one of the women, he never even attempted to do it, but as it didn’t actually bother me and I needed to PEE RIGHT NOW I said just help me on the damn thing, which he did, very discreetly and making sure I was safe to be left he went off to find a female nurse to deal with it all then. But that was me, it didn’t bother me, he was obviously ok, for those who do not want male care then it should not be forced on them. It’s a bit more difficult when it comes to doctors, because the one you need to see might be a man and no women there who deal with whatever disease it is etc.

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