I needed this today.
I get called rude or mean when I am defending myself about myself, after someone tries to argue with me about what my intent was... (not the same as the argument you have in mind, but I feel similarly to you about how you handle people arguing about something they dont know)
Nobody else can know my feelings and motives but me!
and you, YOU!
Heck yeah Ryan, i full agree with yah toot today, thanks! I value the solidarity vibes I'm getting.