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   Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ? (cheezebell@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:13:16 JST Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ?
   As much as I hate assimilationism and passing as a concept, fuck do I love being perceived as female generally so much
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     Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ? (cheezebell@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:13:19 JST Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ?

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     I fucking love being seen as a real pretty girl who just has a huge body
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     ᚛ᚉᚈᚅ᚜ (kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:14:17 JST ᚛ᚉᚈᚅ᚜

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     @Cheezebell The phrase “hey it seems like you’re experiencing some cognitive dissonance here, but all you really gotta do is see me as the ugliest most heinously shitty girl you’ve ever seen and you’ll be just fine.” Is one that’s gotten a lot of mileage from me. Its proven effective time and time again. If people can just project all their dehumanizing insecurities about “ugly messed up women” onto me, and let their prejudices about how women can only have value when embodying the role of sexualized desire-objects who only exist within a narrow, racist, ableist, fatphobic, and classist range hang loose, they tend to get that I’m just one of a billion undesirable women, and that this fucked devaluation doesn’t actually impact the veracity of my identity position.

     Of course actually taking those who reinforce these frameworks to task is another story altogether, but you know… ‘meeting people where they’re at’ and all…

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     CupidsMolotov (cupidsmolotov@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:14:20 JST CupidsMolotov

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     @Cheezebell I don't see anything wrong with feeling validation from being perceived as the correct gender and indont think it is at odds with hating passing culture etc x
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     Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ? (cheezebell@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:14:24 JST Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ?

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     @CupidsMolotov yeah I agree
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     Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ? (cheezebell@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:14:27 JST Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ?

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     @CupidsMolotov I mostly just find it funny bc assimilationists often paint us as ugly or non-passing if we hate the concept but like. I'm absolutely not X3
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     MondoBizarrro (mondobizarrro@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Sunday, 01-Oct-2023 15:14:45 JST MondoBizarrro

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     @Cheezebell @CupidsMolotov you're definitely not ugly, you're fucking GORGEOUS btw
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     Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ? (cheezebell@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 02-Oct-2023 00:35:39 JST Cheezebell :xf_matrix: ?

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     @Mondobizarrro @CupidsMolotov I know right? I'm an angel 😇
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     MondoBizarrro (mondobizarrro@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 02-Oct-2023 00:35:56 JST MondoBizarrro

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     @Cheezebell @CupidsMolotov or a demon, your also cool af