now, I’d like to focus specifically on the part about deference, and how that relates to a project meant to keep marginalized people safe on the fediverse.
The Bad Space disproportionately targets transfeminine people and spaces where transfeminine people congregate as “problematic” instances. and when one of us, and then several of us, and then a whole shit-ton of us, started speaking out to Ro regarding this issue, we expected to receive sympathy and a promise to swiftly and justly correct the issue.
instead, we were met with hostility, doubling down and accusations of bigotry. by the end of the day, we had prominent cis accounts talking about the “trans fascist problem.”
we didn’t receive sympathy or solutions. we received hostility and fashjacketing. all because we dared to speak up for ourselves.
it’s not difficult to see how the above plays into the concept of transfeminized debt. it’s clear that the Fediverse HOA Club, of whom Ro is a part, and who - to my knowledge - are entirely cishet or transmisogyny-exempt, expected deference from transfem people. our needs aren’t important to them, because under the transmisogynist paradigm of transfeminized debt, we’re a privileged group.
never mind the fact that the bulk of us are struggling just to survive in a world that wants us dead several ways. never mind that all we want is to not be isolated from the greater fediverse.
we spoke up, and we were punished for it. we were treated as entitled, arrogant, privileged, even fashjacketed. all for daring to speak up en masse.
all for failing to perform the labor of deference to cishet and TME people.
so, yes. the drama over The Bad Space is grossly transmisogynist to its core. and the trans community here on the fediverse deserves not just an apology, but swift and unqualified restitution.