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   Starsstorm ? (starsstorm@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Aug-2023 11:19:06 JST Starsstorm ?

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   • ChasingWaterfalls
   @ChasingWaterfalls I’ve had people think I don’t have adhd because my house is relatively organized (for a house with four children 6 and under in it). But it’s only well organized because I can’t manage my anxiety and sensory meltdowns otherwise. I also spend most of my time organizing things to the point it’s my main hobby. Knowing what I have to do to manage my adhd doesn’t mean I don’t have it basically. I expend a lot of energy managing adhd while raising children.
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     ChasingWaterfalls (chasingwaterfalls@spinster.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Aug-2023 11:19:07 JST ChasingWaterfalls
     I see this sentiment A LOT both online and IRL, that if a woman is disorganized or messy, that she must have ADHD. Yes, I have actually had people say this to me, as if I don’t already have a damn spoon shortage for other reasons on top of not being raised in a family that prioritized keeping things spic and span.
     
     Funny how we don’t say that men must have ADHD if they aren’t neat freaks.
     
     This really needs to stop, as I see men saying it about women who don’t keep a spotless house, I have women who say it to me because I’m not perfectly organized, etc.