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   Jens Finkhäuser (jens@social.finkhaeuser.de)'s status on Wednesday, 16-Aug-2023 22:24:31 JST Jens Finkhäuser

   • The #ActuallyAutistic Coach ?

   @allenstenhaus @EverBeyondReach @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic The trick to lying is to role play a character in whose alternate reality it's the truth.

   I shouldn't say this because it's like an evil superpower.

   The other dimension to it is to stay internally consistent, and that's difficult. So lying is really only "safe" if you stay in character, or it's a random encounter with no chance of meeting the same people again.

   It's that second dimension that I find too hard to bother with.

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     PatternChaser (patternchaser@mas.to)'s status on Wednesday, 16-Aug-2023 22:24:45 JST PatternChaser

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     • The #ActuallyAutistic Coach ?

     @jens @allenstenhaus @EverBeyondReach @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

     Yes, there are ways we can minimise the hurt we feel when we lie. Lying by telling the truth in a way that won't be believed; lying by omission; etc. But lying causes us stress, and this stress is why #masking is so (emotionally) exhausting for us?

     #honesty is *really* important to me, and to most of us!

     #AuDHD

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