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   Flick ?? (flick@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:45 JST Flick ??

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   @Antiquixotic Ah, right, that complicates things. A lot harder to have a clean break in that situation.

   Do you think he’s envisaging a set-up where you have separate bedrooms but otherwise everything else stays the same until the kids are older?

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     Antiquixotic (antiquixotic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:45 JST Antiquixotic

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     @Flick Probably, yes. Eventually living next door to each other so our lives will be intertwined. We’ve been together 20 years, we hold each other’s history at this point.
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     Caffosaurus☕?:mayo: (fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:45 JST Caffosaurus☕?:mayo:

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     @Antiquixotic @Flick He wants to keep living with you or near you but is in a hurry to sleep with other women? Is he planning on doing that in your shared home? Get a legal separation document asap. Protect your assets. And your kids.
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     Flick ?? (flick@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:46 JST Flick ??

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     @Antiquixotic Try to keep it as amicable as possible. Mine went very smoothly, so it is possible.

     Take legal advice before you start.

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     Antiquixotic (antiquixotic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:46 JST Antiquixotic

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     @Flick It will likely be quite amicable. We’re still living together at the moment. No one knows yet, it just sunk in. I want to be smart on moving forward. He’s a bit in denial about it. Of course he wants to immediately start sleeping with other women as we do a slow separation, which made me want to expedite it all the more. He’ll be kinda angry when he realizes I want to move faster than he does.
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     Flick ?? (flick@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:46 JST Flick ??

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     @Antiquixotic That’s a lot better than it could be. I’m assuming no kids, do you own or rent?

     I don’t know about your local set-up, but we (England) pretty much tried to go as quickly as possible and it was still nearly a year before it was finalised.

     If you’re both ready to move on, and still amicable, why do you think he’ll not want to get it settled as soon as possible?

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     Antiquixotic (antiquixotic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:46 JST Antiquixotic

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     @Flick We have two kids, 10 and 16. He doesn’t want to shake his reputation and is afraid of losing a lot of our life and routines together. Not seeing the kids through daily activities. We’re in a small town and we are renting a home from my dad.

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     Antiquixotic (antiquixotic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 08:47:47 JST Antiquixotic
     I’m going to get a divorce. Any advice?