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   mia@void.rehab's status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 08:46:58 JST mia

   hello all
   i'd like to make some statements (i know, spooky)
   
   before my break from fedi, tensions were quite high and things were quite heated. a situation that should have been handled easily turned into a massive controversy. that controversy and the stress it caused was one part of why i left, but i also felt that my use of fedi was becoming unhealthy. and about that situation: it's quite obvious that eve is a manipulative piece of shit. eve, if you see this, i am in your walls, and i am in possession of a firearm. this opinion is completely uncontroversial. it's what happened next that caused our conflict.
   
   eris disqordia shared this story to a large group of people while it was still being resolved. this got in the way of resolution and further hurt the victim. people from outside of the community, who had no reason to get involved, were getting involved, and this hurt my friend. this is why i was so outspoken about eris' involvement. and to clear up a misconception i saw, the involvement of eris did not lead to any consequences for eve. eve was removed from 0w0.is after autumn's statement condemning her (post before eris) and was removed from snug.moe after jade's statement (delayed due to concern of suicide, not influenced at all by eris). i am not aware of any presence of eve on the fediverse, though i am a full week out of date. the consequences for eve came from within the community, not from outside influence.
   
   and another thing. i do not appreciate the accusation that i was defending grooming. i get that it was a heated time, but that was entirely uncalled for. i have to deal with the consequences of having been groomed, having been lead to posting compromising pictures as a minor, and people using that trauma against me because i told someone to go away is a massive overreaction and incredibly immature. turning petty drama into me defending grooming is dishonest and harmful, and i honestly expected better from you.
   
   but i will also admit that i also overreacted. i acted way too aggressively during the incident and should not have attacked eris as much as i did. tensions were high and the situation triggered memories of past events that have happened to me. im sorry. i will try to control my emotions more during these times to try to prevent further controversy. i don't want to cause conflict. additionally, to my followers who have seen some ablist tropes or comments from me or the posts i renote, i am sorry. i am still unlearning these things, and i appreciate the user who reached out and talked to me. i am FPing you so hard rn for that.
   
   now, the next thing that i saw some controversy around. i occasionally interact with a user by the name of errante. my interactions with this user have been interpreted as support for every action they have ever been accused of doing. talking to errante beforehand, they assured me that they are against grooming. why would they have to do this? well, it's time for some nuance.
   
   errante is a pedophile. this isn't an assumption - they publicly talk about it. it's just a part of them. and that's the thing. pedophilia - that is, an attraction to minors - isn't something someone can control. it's like a rash or a cancer. what i focus on is the things that pedophilia can push people towards - grooming and sexual assault. i wish for grooming and sexual assault to be minimized as much as possible. the way i see it, i am attracted to many people who i do not rape, and my (possibly overoptimistic) hope was that at least one pedophile could do the same. at this point, i don't know if errante is a groomer. i would like to speak with people regarding this, because i haven't had enough context to form an opinion. i try not to form an opinion without proper knowledge of a situation.
   
   with all that said, i am happy to finally be done with my break. it was a nice time away, but i did miss all of you. it really reminded me just how lucky i am to have friends like this. i hope to take over everyone's timelines again with the worst posts ever federated by a catgirl.

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     eris (eris@akko.disqordia.space)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 08:46:56 JST eris

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     @dushman @meso @mia I think it's definitely important to note that they were doing the "We're just trying to be harm reduction for pedos who aren't trying to do harm" thing back on refusal.biz
     
     I gave them that benefit of the doubt, and I regret it because they are fully advocating for doing sexual harm to both children and to animals, they are not interested in just being seen as people with mental illness trying to do better.
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     Dushman (dushman@den.raccoon.quest)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 08:46:57 JST Dushman

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     @meso@the.asbestos.cafe
     True lol.
     cc @mia@void.rehab
     Oh fuck off. Errante is human trash who talks to people who unironically advocate for raping kids on the regular. Errante does as well. They deserve to be thrown in a wood chipper legs first.

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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 08:46:58 JST meso

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     @mia HOly shit nice cw
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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:47:55 JST JAJAX

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     @mia words words words words can I get a tl;dr?
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     histoire ??☢️?? (histoire@pleroma.skyshanty.xyz)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:47:57 JST histoire ??☢️??

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     @JAJAX @mia
     
     shitty drama no one cares about
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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:48:27 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     Isn’t errante a mexican pedophile?
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     dissociativity (dissociativity@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:48:28 JST dissociativity

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     @mia @histoire @zero @JAJAX Errante did nothing wrong, I don't believe in thought-crimes, and everything they post is harmless shitposting, I don't appreciate advocating for the death of my friend thanks.
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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:48:28 JST JAJAX

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     @dissociativity @histoire @zero @mia oh lol we're talking about errante, who is 17 and calls himself an "eromenos" rofl yeah real winner that one
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     mia@void.rehab's status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:48:29 JST mia

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     @zero@strelizia.net @histoire@pleroma.skyshanty.xyz @JAJAX@clubcyberia.co yeah, i wouldn't have made a statement if nobody cared. people clearly cared enough to defed from void.rehab over it

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     Zero :zt_think: :artix: (zero@strelizia.net)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:48:30 JST Zero :zt_think: :artix:

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     @histoire @JAJAX @mia my favorite type of guy is a guy who replies with shit like this when people do clearly care
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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:50:16 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     Shouldn’t you be posting some more man hand AGP pics?
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     mia@void.rehab's status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 10:50:17 JST mia

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     @bot@seal.cafe i thought that was you?

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:49 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     Oh well other ppl on fedi do something very similar…….
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     dissociativity (dissociativity@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:50 JST dissociativity

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     @p @JAJAX @histoire @bot @zero @mia You wouldn't spread baseless accusations on the internet, would you?
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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:50 JST JAJAX

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     @dissociativity @p @histoire @bot @zero @mia It's not baseless errante totally fucking does this shit on the reg and in the open
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:51 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @dissociativity @JAJAX @bot @histoire @mia @zero
     
     > I just don't reduce people to being one thing.
     
     It seems kind of absurd to say that there is no action so terrible that it is a dealbreaker for personal interaction. Having a terrible pro-grooming opinion, sure, that's awful, spending time and energy advocating for it is worse, and then actually grooming kids, that's way worse. Somewhere in that sequence a line should have been crossed. If I say that I don't want to be friends with Jeffrey Dahmer, it's ridiculous to then say I'm "reducing him to one thing".
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     dissociativity (dissociativity@social.xenofem.me)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:52 JST dissociativity

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     @JAJAX @histoire @bot @zero @mia I never claimed to support any of that, I just don't reduce people to being one thing.
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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:04:53 JST JAJAX

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     • histoire ??☢️??
     @bot @histoire @dissociativity @zero @mia well he's a pedophile enabler... I think he most oftne talks about himself wanting to get with older men iirc. He seems to think because he himself is underage that makes it ok
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:05:43 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @splitshockvirus @dushman @meso @mia Oh, instance-blocking, whatever. I don't like it and don't recommend it, but if you blocked them, then it's your business.
     
     > In this instance discordia was instriumental, because I don't keep up with these gay hugbox instances,
     
     I have not seen Eris kick up drama over something that turned out to be real. If it was real this time, this is the first time it has happened.
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:05:45 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @splitshockvirus @dushman @meso @mia Eris makes shit up, spends weeks publicly creating drama, and then very quietly over DMs says "It wasn't my fault, I have BPD. I'm not sorry and I don't intend to try to fix the problems I created, but I will get mad if you tell me to fuck off and I will immediately start lying in public about this conversation." I would not listen to anything she says uncritically.
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     SSV (splitshockvirus@pl.starnix.network)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:05:45 JST SSV

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     @p @dushman @meso @mia
     
     I take it into consideration but I didn't defederate solely becuase eris said so. I keep everyone arms distance I'm not on anyone's alliance but I don't like to burn bridges if it can be helped because somebody might be talking about something that I need to hear.
     
     In this instance discordia was instriumental, because I don't keep up with these gay hugbox instances, they're weirdos and all act like discord groomers, and as it turned out they were. Who would have thought :cirno_shrug:
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     SSV (splitshockvirus@pl.starnix.network)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 12:05:46 JST SSV

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     @dushman @meso @mia
     
     Caught in the middle of 9/11 but for fediverse pedophiles, their first reaction is to start defeding Errante? What the fuck rots have to do with anything?
     
     But since we are on that topic that lets me know that eris nail on the head with these instances who closed rank when questioned about child abuse.
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     Dushman (dushman@den.raccoon.quest)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:43:02 JST Dushman

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     @meso@the.asbestos.cafe @mia@void.rehab
     Total pedo death

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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:44:19 JST JAJAX

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     @animeirl @dushman @p @splitshockvirus @meso @mia lol kf eris would never claim to have BPD he has scrizophrenia
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:44:19 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @JAJAX @animeirl @dushman @meso @mia @splitshockvirus He also wouldn't get mad at being told to fuck off.
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     shrimps! (animeirl@shitposter.club)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:44:20 JST shrimps!

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     @p @dushman @splitshockvirus @meso @mia which eris?
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     anime graf mays ?️? (graf@poa.st)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:46:06 JST anime graf mays ?️?

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     @mia this is a lot of words to tell us eris is a pedophile and a blight on the fediverse as a whole
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     Terry Hendrix II 🏹 (thendrix@social.hendrixgames.com)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:46:06 JST Terry Hendrix II 🏹

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     I saw this post with no thread/context and wondered which mia and eris…

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:47:45 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     He*
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     ?Hidden? (hidden@cawfee.club)'s status on Monday, 24-Jul-2023 18:51:35 JST ?Hidden?

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     @mia I'm very skeptical of the narrative that pedophilia is some innate natural thing like being gay or straight, but even if that were true that clearly isn't applicable to this situation. They're not some morally aware ascetic. They're proud of being a pedophile, and brag and post about it constantly, and host an instance full of pedophiles and teenagers. It is very easy to not spend all of your time on the internet posting about how badly you want to rape children, and people who do so should be treated with suspicion, derision, and ostracisation. They know it's wrong, everyone does no matter how hard they try to justify it to themselves.
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     eris (eris@akko.disqordia.space)'s status on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2023 06:30:18 JST eris

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     @meso @mia 😳 wtf
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     JAJAX (jajax@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2023 08:10:45 JST JAJAX

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     @animeirl @dushman @p @splitshockvirus @meso @mia who's book?
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2023 08:10:45 JST meso

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     @JAJAX @dushman @p @splitshockvirus @animeirl @mia does he know
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     shrimps! (animeirl@shitposter.club)'s status on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2023 08:10:46 JST shrimps!

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     is that book or someone else?
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2023 08:10:47 JST meso

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     @p @JAJAX @dushman @splitshockvirus @animeirl @mia he wouldnt get mad at being told to fuck off, he would get mad at people being nice to him. interesting person