"I'm just a jealous person. I couldn't ever handle #polyamory because #jealousy is part of me."
Jealousy is not a feeling or a personality trait. It is an underlying symptom of another unmet need. Most people take it as its own thing and don't explore it further, and that's what causes it to be so powerful and toxic.
But if you find the root of it (e.g. a feeling of possession of your partner(s), a fear of abandonment, a desire to be a higher priority in someone's life…) and work on that part of yourself, you tend to find yourself a lot happier as a result.
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(char[]) [0x42, 0x72, 0x79, 0x6e] (bryn@blahaj.zone)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:47 JST (char[]) [0x42, 0x72, 0x79, 0x6e]
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:35 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
I know a guy who's a cuck. His wife bangs other dudes. He always acts like he's cool with it, but according to people who know him better, he gets weird when she's out. Particularly, he starts sending aggressive DMs and texts to friends, acts extra trolly on Facebook, etc. I really don't believe anyone who says they're OK with it. I bet I could always find a hard cope. -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:36 JST Mr. Bacon
Anyone who thinks being “poly” is okay is the one dealing with connection issues.
It’s totally fine to be monogamous and treat eachother well. Anyway who tells you otherwise just wants the D and is likely a ho. -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:37 JST Mr. Bacon
It’s okay to not get cucked lol -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:37 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn it's oki to want to be the only one -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:39:38 JST kuro-chan
@bryn i prefer just not be poly -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:44:12 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
Keep telling yourself that. It's a hard cope. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:44:13 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony thinking u understand how people feel about shit u dk is a big cope tho -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:44:31 JST Mr. Bacon
Yah I agree - but getting cucked is a hard line. Lol
I’m not gonna watch you bang another man. That’s a hard no.?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:44:36 JST Mr. Bacon
Well that’s just it - it’s always a cope. No man is okay with that lol ?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:46:16 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
"I'm not the one who's coping, you're the one who's coping."
Is that all you got to explain why you're wrong? You've provided no counter argument. Try actually making an argument rather than acting like a faggot. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:46:17 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony sure, cope as much as u want fag ?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:46:46 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
You sound very emotional. Are you OK? Maybe you should seek help. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:46:47 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn @Humpleupagus yeah it is understandable, i am a jealous person too
just not my thing to be a whiny bitch about someone else's relations -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:49:16 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
You haven't explained why being in a monogamous relationship requires jealousy. In our society, people can fuck whoever they want. If two people mutually enjoy each other and have no need to fuck others, that's not jealousy. So your explanation is a cope. -
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Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:49:30 JST Fediverse Contractor
Hmm a lot of guys must be ho’s that want the D then. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:50:58 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony how do i sound emotional, sir -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:50:58 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
The thread speaks for itself. You can read it. -
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Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:53:21 JST Fediverse Contractor
Not surprised they all view things through a male lens, naturally. -
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diceynes (diceynes@cawfee.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:53:22 JST diceynes
@bot @bryn @Tony @sun_eater good to unearth male privilege and hypocrisy. Pigs the lot of them. I'm different though 🤔 -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:56:11 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
Is he one of our boys? 😏
I will give him that he doesn't want to be a cuck, but never defend cucks. Full stop. -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:56:12 JST sargoysmuck
@Humpleupagus @sun_eater @bryn @Tony His minds on his girl banging the other dude, cut him some slack 😂 -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:56:53 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
When I'm behind on shit, I usually make up by eating a big meal. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:56:54 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus how do u guys make up shit so much -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:05 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn yes, i don't like it -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:05 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
How would anyone find the time? I already fuck three hours a day. 😩 -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:06 JST Mr. Bacon
What's the other kind? Just wide open banging whoever ou want? lol -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:07 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn well that idk, i don't feel like i am a needy person but i was never in a relationship like this, idk how would it work
i wouldn't mind trying it to see. on the other hand, i know as a fact to other type of poly relationship wouldn't work for me at all. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:08 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn no? like why would they if htey are dating each other too -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:08 JST Mr. Bacon
? Wouldn’t you be jealous?
Maybe one day you’re feeling needy but the other partner gets all my attention.
Home come you both don’t get equal attention??? -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:09 JST Mr. Bacon
I don’t think it’s conducive to a happy-long term arrangement though. Especially the mix. If it’s two dudes and a girl, the dudes are going to fight eventually -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:10 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn they would still both be mine and i would belong to both
that's what really matters to me -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:11 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn idk what it is called but i wouldn't mind a relationship like this -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:11 JST Mr. Bacon
Why? -
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Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:12 JST Mr. Bacon
Lol thrupple? -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:13 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn i think i would like a relationship of 3 people but that thing of being able to fuck anyone u want while having a gf/bf is not for me at all -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:01:14 JST kuro-chan
@Tony @bryn it's oki to be poly too, just don't force that shit on me or say i have issues cos i want a normal love story -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:05:35 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
I had a threesome when I was young. I wish I had read a book instead. 😒 -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:05:36 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony imagine wasting your time fucking multiple people when you could read a book or smth ?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:08:47 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
Two women and me. -
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RJ805 (rj805@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:08:48 JST RJ805
Configuration? -
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RJ805 (rj805@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:12:47 JST RJ805
Same but we were all inexperienced band geeks. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:12:47 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
One on one is better, and it's way better than that if it's with someone you love. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:16:17 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
There's no better feeling than jacking off while wearing your mother's dress. 😏 -
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Dwalrus Free Blankets Pilgrim :verified: (dwalrus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:16:18 JST Dwalrus Free Blankets Pilgrim :verified:
Correct -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:51:23 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus You’re defending it lol, and attacking someone making a probable estimate as to the mental status of someone engaging in it, ergo you have to defend your “purchase”. ?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:54:25 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
What's even more bizarre is that he attacked me for analyzing a person I actually know on grounds that I shouldn't assume how other people feel, but he just let's OP, who generalizes the mental state of every monogamous person, slide. -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:56:00 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus So…. you’re are one? I mean being one is like the lowest you can go, so you disagreeing with people dunking on it is pretty telling. ?? Humpleupagus ?? likes this. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:56:01 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus yea, crazy right -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:59:32 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
That's not a refutation of what I said. Try reading it again. Again, you never refuted OP on the grounds you attacked me on, and despite OPs generalization as to people's mental states. You just did it again. Go criticize op for generalizing. I'll wait here. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 10:59:33 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony @sargoysmuck that is not what happened.
i criticized the op on my og post and in my convo with tony, and criticized you on assuming that everyone has the same experience as your friend. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:06:06 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
I'll accept your failure to respond with a reasoned position as an admission that I'm right. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:06:07 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony @sargoysmuck yeah yeah bla bla bla, you know that's not what happened and i am not gonna lose my time on your skill issues -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:49 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus i didn't do that, i was just having a convo about it with tony who's a friend
more people showed up giving opinions on it and i gave opinions about their opinions -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:49 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
So what's your opinion about OP generalizing the mental stares of monogamous couples or those people who desire monogamy? Do you think OP is a "fag" and shouldn't assume how people feel? 🤔 -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:51 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus not really, all my relationships were mono -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:51 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus So why try and stop us from laughing at them? I r confuse -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:52 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus Learned experience? -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:53 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus I’m genuinely asking, are you a cuck, and if not why defend people from dunking on it. Hell they probably like being degraded so it a win win lol. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:53 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus i just gave my opinion, simple as
that kinda thing works out for other people but not for me, simple as -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:11:54 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus nah, it doesn't tell anything at all -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:15:43 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
So "I prefer not to be poly" is the same as "thinking u understand how people feel about shit u dk is a big cope tho" and then subsequently calling me a "fag"? Is this really your position. Are you fucking stupid? -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:15:44 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony @sargoysmuck i already said what i tihnk about on the first comments of this thread -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:17:31 JST kuro-chan
@Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony @sargoysmuck see the other posts + don't get so bitchy over a "fag" -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:17:31 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
You're a nigger. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:19:51 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
Bye, nigger. -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:19:52 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus someone really got offended -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:19:53 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus > thinking u understand how people feel about shit u dk is a big cope tho
Lay off whatever you’re on lol.
Also how would you feel if you didn’t have breakfast this morning? -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:25:06 JST kuro-chan
@sargoysmuck @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus be offended then -
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sargoysmuck (sargoysmuck@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:25:07 JST sargoysmuck
@sun_eater @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus I’m offended you haven’t answered the question. -
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?? Humpleupagus ?? (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 13:43:09 JST ?? Humpleupagus ??
Two hours and that's the best you could do? 😒 -
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Dwalrus Free Blankets Pilgrim :verified: (dwalrus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 13:43:10 JST Dwalrus Free Blankets Pilgrim :verified:
By : “ that thing works for other people “ do you mean your spouse ? 🤔 -
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kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 13:43:10 JST kuro-chan
@Dwalrus @bryn @Tony @Humpleupagus @sargoysmuck only woman in my heart is your mom, silly
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