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> Most email services with the exception of maybe mailchimp and proton do that.

My mail gets through without trouble to almost all servers with the sole exception of the ones that say "aspmx.googlemail.com" when I ask for the MX record.

> if I detect it in the spam folder.

Are you running any MTAs at present? If I send the email, Google's servers for a very long time, flagrantly ignoring SMTP, sends the mail to /dev/null and claims that it has accepted the message. This is a far worse problem than their spam filters fucking up.

> getting defed for only one person getting butt hurt

I think you don't get it. There are some people that try to cause trouble, like for :epstein: whatever reason :epsteinsmug:, the anime.website admin wanted to pick fights over FSE banning someone that wrote "MAP" in his bio and posted naked 12-year-old girls. Easy ban: a self-described pedophile posts nude young girls draped across each other on a bed, FSE didn't even allow loli hentai, so sexualized images of naked children are a very easy call. So the anime.website pedo shouts a while and decries my arrogance and calls me paranoid and says that I am not a lawyer so I don't know what pornography is and that I shouldn't tell pedophiles to kill themselves. Whatever, not going to budge: anyone that tries to upload CP to fedi should be swinging from a branch. (Same person started in again almost every time I banned a pedo.) So then the posting.lolicon.rocks guy decides to pick a fight over the same ban, and it becomes obvious the guy doesn't actually care about anything he's saying, he just wants to stir up drama. Easy to ignore him after that. I didn't regret the decision to ban the guy, I did it again without hesitation, I started posting their IPs and email addresses in the @modfaggotry notes. So if more people try to argue with me about that same ban, what can I infer? They intend to cause problems. Then if someone said, "Hey, this guy blocks people for arguing about that ban, he's clearly butthurt!" and a hundred people decided to start trying to fight about that ban, I'd just get rid of them.

This happened with the Loli Question. Drama retards love that one: you can't ever prove "should" and people set their policies based on what they're willing to deal with. (In FSE's case, there were a few reasons to prohibit it: the DOJ maintains that it's illegal, I don't want to give people an excuse to instance-block, I don't want to give the government an excuse, etc.) It's very easy to determine the difference between someone that wants to talk about it and someone that wants to create drama (e.g., they hear "This is what we do and why, these are my concerns" and they ignore your concerns while continuing to hammer the salacious facets, or they restart the same argument from the beginning as if the previous argument hadn't happened, or especially in FSE's case, they complain to me for prohibiting loli for the "wrong" reasons and they completely ignored instances that explicitly allowed it; I think everyone knows how to tell, at least going by their gut even if they don't try to come up with a rule of thumb). The Loli Question was bot's go-to, she'd say deliberately misleading things to try to get a large number of replies, because having blocked her, she couldn't annoy me directly, but if she just replied to each of my last ten posts with something like "I can't believe you support child pornography!" then people would start replying to her post, and I'd be tagged in their replies. (She didn't create that tactic, but she can engage in :facesofautism2: repetitive behavior :facesofautism2: without getting bored.) But by the nth time the same group of people stirred up the same drama the same way, it wasn't hard to conclude that this was what they were going to do periodically. So, January 2, 2022, I get more notifications in one day than any other person on FSE--the hellthread instance--had ever gotten in one day. Then that record was broken five more times, and the fifth time was January 9, when I received 1,667 notifications in a single 24-hour period (there are only 1,440 minutes in a day) and decided to write the Iron Dome MRF, I tacked a bunch of usernames onto the Strangelove bot auto-responder, I blocked accounts, I instance-blocked accounts, etc.

Nobody has time to deal with a gaggle of assholes that waste your time shit-stirring. It's not a matter of being butthurt, it's that nobody wants to dedicate their life to arguing on the internet with tedious assholes whose goal is not to get anywhere but to use senseless arguments to provoke you, the same people that have been on the same shit once a week for years, and if there are enough people that decide to do that once a week, it becomes a constant stream. Like I said, if I were in graf's position, I'd be smashing the big, red button way more often.

> It's very petty if you ask me to hide your users to an entire instance because of 1 user.

See my other remarks about exactly this happening to me 1,399 times: https://fba.ryona.agency/?domain=freespeechextremist.com . And we've gotten that not just because of one user, but because of one user that I banned when I saw what they were doing.

It looks petty to you because you think it's personal. It's only personal from one end: from the other, it's the 50th time this week, and it barely registers to the conscious mind.

> Issues with users for being "mean" should be handled by user settings (aka block) first than the big ol ban hammer.

As stated, yes, absolutely, but that's doesn't reflect the actual case. Either you don't understand the scale and the degree and you think it is just an occasional person being mean, or you are downplaying it. Come on, man, it's not just an occasional person being mean on the internet. When poa.st first arrived and I was talking to graf about database tuning, I was getting messages from people telling me not to trust him, and I was like "Trust him with what? He is a guy running an instance, what's the worst he could do?" and I never got an answer from anyone, so whatever the grudge is, it evidently predates fedi. I'm thoroughly tired of the persistent stream of "Oh, that graf, he's MEAN ON THE INTERNET he's definitely UP TO SOMETHING", so I can only imagine what his notifications would look like if he wasn't using Soapbox and its complete shit notification UI. I don't blame him for shooting first and asking questions never.

> Because any company big or small should not take and sell your data period.

Sure, but as noted in the other post, the one that is relevant now is the one that is in front of us.
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