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   mcc (mcc@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 14-Nov-2024 09:54:21 JST mcc

   Alright, Mastodon. Please help me solve a spatial reasoning problem.

   As you may know, I have acquired a cute coat ( https://mastodon.social/@mcc/113469434536726234 ). I'm pretty sure this is the product page on the creator's website https://www.doclasse.com/ladies/feature/cm .

   This coat is a hoodie, but it has a snap system whereby the hoodie can be "folded in" and no longer looks like a hoodie but a tall collar. This is also incredibly cute.

   Unfortunately, I unsnapped it— and can't figure out how to re snap it!

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   John BS (johnabs@qoto.org)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Mar-2024 11:22:05 JST John BS

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   @freemo No problem.

   As for the question in terms of how she would feel: it depends on if she likes you. And this isn't a woman only thing.

   Let's imagine the inverse scenario: you're wearing fairly tight shorts and *insert movie star/celebrity you find attractive here* walks up to you, eyes your bulge for "a solid 2 seconds" and then continues talking to you respectfully. Well, if you consider a lot of factors (e.g. are you married, is she married, do you find her attractive, etc) you'll come to a conclusion as to whether you appreciated the gesture (note this happens in milliseconds and is not a conscious decision). Now, imagine instead of *movie star/celebrity you find attractive* we have the human personification of Roz from Monster's Inc do the same thing. You may not appreciate the same gesture, because you may not find her attractive.

   Now, let's imagine that in either of these scenarios, the woman in question asks you "hey, can I look at your bulge for a few seconds"? I imagine most men would respond either internally or externally in the following ways: a) is this a prank? Is she serious? Why would she want to? b) That's a really weird question to ask, and the fact that she did so means I kinda don't want her to, or c) Sure, ogle away. Though I suspect most people would fall into categories a or b.

   So, overall, all people judge behaviors, particularly ones in a semi-intimate context, based on how the evaluate the person. If they like the person or are interested in them as a potential partner, this helps "smooth over any rough edges" the person in question may display. However, if a person has already judged you as someone they are either ambivalent towards or actively dislike, this magnifies the impact of behavior that is close to "the line" and may even move the line further away from this sort of behavior.

   All this to say: you can't apply the same behavior to different contexts with different subjective personal preferences and expect the same result, so the question is kinda pointless unless you're directing it to a specific individual with a specific target and context in mind.

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   Sam (samuteki@ohay.ooo)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Aug-2023 20:29:51 JST Sam

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   (5/6) But society at large does not care about the nuances contained in the struggles of groups it is not directly connected to. Society is peace-loving at the expense of being justice-loving, and is content to let all the wickedness in the hearts of powerful people play with the powerless like toys as long as neither of them makes too much noise.

   Society at large sees no difference between the anger of the abused and the anger of the abuser. The end result of anger is the same, that being the disruption of peace. That is the only problem.

   As long as the abused receives the abuse humbly and politely, there is no problem. As long as the abuser metes out the abuse with a necktie and a smile, there is no problem.

   But if the abused does complain? They are a problem. If they get angry? They're a trouble maker. If they speak up for themselves? They're 'difficult'. If they demand change? They're ingrates.

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   Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 21:58:28 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

   @mkljczk @xarvos @jakob The endpoint I gave worked on genuine Pleroma (it’s backend after all), so it’s not a Soapbox problem.

   As for /main/ostatus I would learn towards safe but I would also scan logs for it just in case.