Notices by Shauna GM (shauna@social.coop)

if capitalism is so great why does ticketmaster exist

@evan can't really answer this because idk what "be held accountable" even means in this context

The combo of understaffing their stores and locking up half their items cannot be working out for cvs

I know it's swans because of the swan boats but it's funny to me they picked the most beautiful and vicious bird. A swan would absolutely get a first half red card if it tried to play soccer.

https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:zvz3wtflce4upgb7oiphzqmn/post/3lqzfztcndc2u

#NWSL

I just filled out the Python Packaging Ecosystem Survey and you should too!

https://anaconda.surveymonkey.com/r/py-package-2025

If you've ever typed "pip install X" or clicked the install button on an IDE, you've interfaced with the Python packaging ecosystem.

Please don't worry that you don't know enough about packaging! If only super experienced folks fill the survey out, then the changes that get made won't serve less experienced folks.

Cheers to Anaconda and the 30 other groups that put this survey together :)

TIL that frogs, sharks, salamanders and a few other cold-blooded creatures have a third eye that helps them thermoregulate called the "pineal eye" (bc it works with the pineal gland)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parietal_eye

it's amazing the difference between "we should have done X" and "i know we're all doing our best and i appreciate what you've done, but i also would've loved X" in terms of how they land

(speaking as someone who received the former regarding a first time volunteer leadership thing, and really could have used the latter)

As if I needed another reason to love ptj, she can do an exquisite lawnmower

https://bsky.app/profile/838carlisle.bsky.social/post/3lpuq4vy5qc2t

I'll stop before I quote the whole thing but it's 100% worth reading - short and powerful.

Again the post is "Distinctions for Inner and Outer Conflict Resolution" by @presleypizzo.bsky.social

https://partswithpresley.com/2025/04/26/distinctions-for-inner-and-outer-conflict-resolution/

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'Projecting ≠ Overreacting

Sometimes we have a big emotional reaction to a small slight because it activates feelings from the past.

When this happens, you’re not overreacting; you’re reacting the right amount but to the wrong thing.

Your feelings are valid, but some of them are about the past. Punishing the person that reminded you of them will not heal them.'

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

This part's my favorite!

'Needs ≠ Strategies

People’s true needs are generally compatible with each other. But their strategies for meeting their needs can be incompatible.

Domination and exploitation are not true needs. Whenever someone seeks to dominate or exploit, look for the true need hiding behind that strategy.'

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'Holding Accountable ≠ Shaming and Punishing

To stop wrongdoing long-term, people have to take a hard look at themselves and change the root cause of the wrongdoing, deep inside themselves.

Deep change requires feeling safe.

Feeling shame is the opposite of feeling safe.

Though consequences are sometimes needed to motivate certain people to begin the accountability process, compassion aids the accountability process.'

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'Pain ≠ Wrongdoing

Being in pain does not necessarily mean you did something wrong.

Being in pain does not necessarily mean someone wronged you.

Pain deserves compassion.

You don’t have to have someone to blame to deserve compassion. You don’t have to be blameless to deserve compassion.'

Absolute banger of a post by @presleypizzo.bsky.social:

Distinctions for Inner and Outer Conflict Resolution

https://partswithpresley.com/2025/04/26/distinctions-for-inner-and-outer-conflict-resolution/

My favorite excerpts in a thread:

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'There are concepts that sometimes feel very connected but are actually distinct. When they’re not distinguished from each other, they act like dominoes. When one domino falls, all the other dominoes fall, too. It can look like “I’m hurt, therefore you must have wronged me, therefore you’re a bad person, therefore you must be punished.”'

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'Listening ≠ Obeying, Understanding ≠ Condoning

Internally: you can listen to the angry part of yourself without lashing out. You can listen to the helpless part of yourself without giving up.

Externally: you can listen to someone you’re angry at without doing what they say or giving up your own perspective. You can ask someone to validate your feelings without asking them to agree with your thoughts.'

@presleypizzo.bsky.social

'Two perspectives can both have a piece of the truth.

Internally: you can feel both angry and guilty at the same time. Realizing that you don’t have to pick – both can be true – brings relief.

Externally: you can see the kernel of truth in someone else’s perspective without giving up your own perspective. You can ask what’s distorted about your perspective without giving up what’s true about your perspective.'

Devastated I don't live in Boston anymore so I can't do this re-enactment

@cwebber lmao

Is there a Fediverse service that allows you to only post to a list of people and/or custom group? Facebook has had this for ages but I believe Mastodon doesn't.

Being able to post to custom lists of follows would help me engage with people on here in healthier ways. For example, when venting, I'd love to be able to limit to friends who I trust not to "well, actually" me (or with whom I care enough to repair with if they do). Instead I often just don't post at all.