Notices by Harris Lapiroff 🔥 (harris@social.coop)

I’ve started reading Rhaina Cohen’s “The Other Significant Others” and I can already tell going to want to record quotes from large swaths of it. Starting a thread of them here.

“‘When we channel all our intimate needs into one person,’ the psychotherapist Esther Perel writes, ‘we actually stand to make the relationship more vulnerable.’ Such totalizing expectations for romantic relationships can leave us with no shock absorber if a partner falls short in even one area. While we weaken friendships by expecting too little of them, we undermine romantic relationships by expecting too much of them.”

— Rhaina Cohen, The Other Significant Others

My poor American brain is struggling to process a rail system where city-to-city trains can leave every 20 minutes and take half as long as driving.

Like what do you mean this won’t cost more than driving, take longer, be limited to a few options hours to days apart, and have an 80% chance of still being delayed???

The problem with government agents using Signal to conduct military operations is not “they’re morons who used Signal wrong.” Yes, they made a confusing and hard to explain error in their usage of Signal. Also, yes, it’s very satisfying to make fun of them for being bad at this. But the primary error was using Signal at all for this purpose. It’s not designed for that!

https://chromamine.com/2025/03/signal-is-not-appropriate-for-military-communication/

The party of free speech sure does have a lot of words they won't let scientists say.

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:s6j27rxb3ic2rxw73ixgqv2p/post/3lh5vdjlc2k27

@tchambers This is very reasonable, imo!

Social.coop is voting again on whether to suspend Threads. I am angry about Meta's policies, but I think this proposal is symbolic and removes value without adding any.

As it stands, Threads' approach to federation means Threads users *cannot* interact with social.coop users. Since we have Threads limited, social.coop users also can't incidentally experience messages of hate without explicitly following someone posting them. I don't think this will reduce any hate in the fediverse.

Bluesky has great aspirations to never become an enshittified platform and I admire much of what it’s done so far. But, as with many once-open social media platforms, it’s still beholden to its investors who sooner or later want to see a profit, either through a functional business model (which it does not have yet) or an acquisition. It is not enshittification-proof nor billionaire-proof.

https://chromamine.com/2024/12/blueskys-enshittification-risk/

#bluesky #SocialMedia #web

If Gazans would only put in place a reasonable government, they could live out from under the thumb of the Israeli government, in freedom and dignity, without the constant threat of violence, just as the Palestinians in the West Bank do.

https://www.nytimes.com/live/2024/08/28/world/israel-hamas-gaza-war

#politics #war #palestine

Honestly I’m tempted to sign up for Flickr again partially because I’m tickled by the fact that *something* still remains from the “Web 2.0” era and partially because that seems like a sign of a social media platform that never lost its guiding star.

o ok cool then

I know it fills a lot of people with dread, but I’m personally kinda stoked to see some @threads.net handles popping up in my feed

@ntnsndr I do both but I’ve *never* been a browser tab hoarder. As soon as I exceed like 10 or so I close everything except my pinned tabs. It’s just how I’ve been ever since tabs were invented. If I want to save something for later, that’s what bookmarks are for!

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https://www.vice.com/en/article/epzyde/librarians-are-finding-thousands-of-books-no-longer-protected-by-copyright-law

(h/t @jwisser)

Amidst a sea of mediocre equivocating headlines, Rolling Stone nailed it.
https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/henry-kissinger-war-criminal-dead-1234804748/

@spencer What appeals to you about not using media queries?