@FunKelly It's lovely to see you here. xo
Are you familiar with @feditips? It's very helpful for finding your way around here.
@FunKelly It's lovely to see you here. xo
Are you familiar with @feditips? It's very helpful for finding your way around here.
@Kuhaku You're doing a great job, sweetie. Literally.
Has anyone recommended following @feditips to you yet? It's a fantastic account that should help you get your bearings quickly.
When I post quotations from world-famous artists, inevitably someone, almost always a cis het white man, will respond to the quote to tell me why it's "wrong".
Because they know better than Arendt, Baldwin, LeGuin, Havel, Lourde, Angelou, et al.
Because yelling at me somehow conveys their disagreement to dead people who are not on Mastodon.
Because contradiction is engagement & conversation.
Because their opinion matters so much.
I don't even know.
Men: You have permission not to do this.
Not all opinions move the conversation forward or reflect well on the speaker, particularly uninformed opinions.
Disagreement, contradiction and derailing are the opposite of friendly conversation & good-faith engagement.
Before you rush to disagree, you might consider the identity of the speaker, the original context of the quote, the context of the conversation it's quoted in, the intentions behind both.
It's okay to pause and think.
It's okay to have a thought and not share it.
A friend texted me upset about the Hyped Up Horror of the Day and...
...I'm over other people's outrage (not my friend, but the people who have upset my friend). Processing the feelings of strangers uses me up & doesn't move me forward. I really can't afford it.
I value informed analysis of facts based on expertise & advice on actionable steps.
Everything else is a waste of my resources.
My unfollows/mutes/blocks/filters proceed accordingly.
It feels like a big portion of social media in the broadest sense is taken up with something similar to what Aldous Huxley called the Violent Passion Surrogate in Brave New World: everyone shares intense feelings collectively, enjoys the catharsis, then returns to the status quo, making no changes, rocking no boats.
There's a point where outrage is a substitute for action. It's an easy trap to fall into.
There will of course be false positives and that's a great shame.
But ask any person on the internet who is marginalized in any way: there is truly only so much one can take.
I'm afraid as we enter Pandemic Year 4 I am a less patient and generous person than I've been in the past. I do not have the energy or resilience to extend infinite generosity to strangers.
If you interact with me here in a way that stresses me out or makes me feel bad, you get a block. Maybe it's cultural differences, maybe something was lost in translation. It doesn't matter. I cannot take hits on behalf of strangers. It's not about your intentions, it's about how your actions affect me.
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