@adbenitez This is just not the way people typically use messengers. Everybody is used to using their phone number as an identifier for whatever messaging solution (SMS, WhatsApp, iMessage, etc.). It's a much better idea to just use a messenger with sufficient metadata protection. No Matrix, and nothing based on email then. @signalapp and @simplex are probably the best solutions.
if cops get your phone
I hope you're using a secure phone then. #GrapheneOS has stood really well against forensic companies like Cellebrite. https://grapheneos.social/@GrapheneOS/112826160880324005
You can also use the @mollyim client for Signal to encrypt your message database, which on modern devices is also tied to the hardware keystore. https://github.com/mollyim/mollyim-android/wiki/Data-Encryption-At-Rest