Notices by (char[]) [0x42, 0x72, 0x79, 0x6e] (bryn@blahaj.zone)

I think I'm gonna give up on trying to sustain relationships with people whose personal struggles unduly add to my own.

Especially if those struggles end up involving nitpicking my personal appearance. Like…sorry I wasn't born pretty and that I have to take meds for the rest of my life to even come close.

"I'm just a jealous person. I couldn't ever handle #polyamory because #jealousy is part of me."

Jealousy is not a feeling or a personality trait. It is an underlying symptom of another unmet need. Most people take it as its own thing and don't explore it further, and that's what causes it to be so powerful and toxic.

But if you find the root of it (e.g. a feeling of possession of your partner(s), a fear of abandonment, a desire to be a higher priority in someone's life…) and work on that part of yourself, you tend to find yourself a lot happier as a result.