you're speaking of a person with an invisible but IMHO very obvious disability. this very disability affects the emotional and sexual development in ways that can be painful and traumatic. it also causes imbalance in skills: individuals can be extremely clever and competent in some skills, while surprisingly naïve in others. you have presumably seen or experienced evils that others can hardly conceive of, but your projecting that evil onto others has distorted how you perceive them. you mistake him for an aggressor, which he isn't; have you ever considered the possibility that he might place himself in the shoes of the person you consider victim of abuse, but in which he might wish he could have had such experiences as a teen, or at least that he could have had a say (autonomy, freedom, does that sound familiar?) to choose whether or not he would like to be such a teen? that, if it were so, he (naïvely?) wouldn't perceive the abuse that you do? that would be quite neurodivergent too, but it's all speculation of mine. the right thing to do is obviously not go about jumping to conclusions and burning presumed witches in the fire, but ask. your ignorance, prejudice, intolerance and persistence are remarkable, but you could use some information. here's something I wrote recently that would evidently be useful for you to appease this hateful monster you've cultivate inside for way too long:
https://www.fsfla.org/blogs/lxo/pub/neurodivergence