Who told you it was your JOB to reach across the aisle? Who told you it was absolutely vital that you convince the fascist that you're right? Who told you that you had to meet the slaver in the middle? Who told you that progress was a function of *convincing* folks who deny your humanity that you too are human?
Hint: it wasn't people under the boot. It was the boot. You don't win freedom by asking your oppressor for permission to fight for it.