And let me be clear right; this is not "join Treehouse, they will let you run wild."
I'm telling you it's explicitly NOT that. It just also, afaict, not about whether or not you have sufficient deference for/agreement with, the personal antipathies and flame wars of the people running the server.
I've long since given up talking about what the fedi SHOULD be; but my experience on Treehouse has been "yes, this is what I thought the fedi WOULD be" - so I don't like seeing that disparaged.