@cbowns ok so it's not THAT long, but people's eyes tend to glaze over. it boils down to: did your server have a *reason* to get the reply in question? let's say Alice makes a post and Bob replies. Reasons you would see the reply:
1. Bob is on your server (post originated on your server)
2. Alice is on your server (Bob's reply was directed at your server)
3. Somebody on your server follows Bob (Bob's posts are sent to your server)