after a standoff where they stare and i initiate the blinking, they relent and blink back
they also creep into the room, i hear a noise and turn, and they trot off when they lock eyes with me
we got our cat from the humane society as a rescue adoption, an older kitten. they were feral on the street
that might be why there is always an edge of aloofness
but they are loved and loved being petted