@wowaname @Milo @PurpCat @S-Config I'm afraid that you can't have that kind of culture on a decentralized network in this political climate (which I don't think is going to change anytime soon). The only way you can have it is on a centralized network with moderation to keep all the political posters, blackpillers, etc out.
For example, there are a couple of imageboards and textboards out there that strive to be more comfy instead of complaining about how much they hate the world, but those admins realized that they either need to sacrifice freeze-peach and/or be relatively obscure in order to keep it that way.
The fediverse has neither of that going for it. Yes, there are more laid-back instances on here that try to replicate that pre-2014 experience, but it is inevitable that users get dogpiled by Poast and NCD users who think they own the network. You could also just have an isolated, webring-like network of whitelist instances, but that kind of defeats the purpose of decentralization in the first place. You might as well just have a Ning site.