biodad asked me to talk to his friend. his wife of 30 years is constantly nagging him and he can't take it anymore. she has a health issue that makes her depressed. he really benefits from someone telling him he's doing a good job and he's a good dude. now making him go to his clubs again. I invited myself for cofe to talk to wife 1:1. I hope she does not perceive it as intrusive. but it's better than him breaking and leaving her.