@LukeAlmighty
i will write the novel for you

the thing men need isn't explicit direct support.
i think the biggest factor is the loneliness epidemic, and a feeling of disconnection.
men can tough out various hardships, in fact it is important to face mental hardships in life for men, the problem is that men do not get the means or purpose behind them.
lacking a group of friends who you know also faced hardship, as well as in a society that teaches men to be individualistic, does lead to almost no purpose.

men have the ability to overcome hardship, but when they don't have a reason to or motivator it can be hard.
not to mention an important factor is the lack of good exemplary men, pride can go a long way into it, if you see others who inspire you, that pride and willingness to become as great as them helps a lot with it.

as a man, outside of your father you will likely never meet exemplary men, and if you have an absent father then it's done.
your teachers are probably mostly women, and often the men are too old, they can give wisdom which is important, but they cannot give you courage.
and they cannot relate to your experience.
why do you think it's often the PE teacher that is the favorite one among the boys? because they are usually relatively young (including middle age here), and they often show confidence and expertise, masculinity, it's the energy that they give off.

this is why despite being *morally* a negative influence, a lot of "hustle" (i.e andrew tate and co) got a lot of teenage boys to support them, because they show a man being masculine, and one that doesn't need help for overcoming his problems, he can deal with it, whatever comes up, and boys see that and they want to be like that.


also the lack of Women present in their life, even when you do have a partner you fail to actually connect with them on a spiritual level because a lot of the time relationships are viewed as "contractual" rather than any actual human bond "if she says this we are out" "if he does this then it won't work out".
these are relatively superficial connections that are viewed based on a formatted list of idealistic beliefs that is aimed to make the relationship as comfortable as possible, when comfort means a lack of conflict, connections and need for understanding and empathy.

mental health works differently for men than for women, men NEED to overcome it, the problem isn't that the men are "weaker".
it's that society fails to take care of them by giving any incentives for them, and whenever they do show actual signs of character building those sparks are quickly snuffed out in the name of combating "toxic masculinity".

i hold this belief that men cannot live for themselves, there's nothing a man wants more than to be relied upon by others, because it is in our nature to want to be needed.
but men of today are abused by being used, and not even being thanked for their service, and constantly being told that they are not needed.