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Why I Don't Seriously Talk Shit About Myself Anymore:

(I'm not talking about the occasional self deprecating joke here. I think people can understand the difference for the most part)

NO ONE LIKES IT! (Except one group, I'll get to that)
Really, no one likes this, it's annoying, and shuts down conversation. It's not interesting to spend time with someone who is constantly telling you they're garbage and useless.

The group that does like it are ABUSERS. They will seek it out, they will love bomb you, and then use every negative thing you've said about yourself against you later.

If you say something long enough people will believe it, and so will you, even more than you already do.

It's manipulative behavior. Yep, people probably won't like this one, but it is true. Plenty of people, whether they realize it or not, use this to garner attention, and just don't get why it never turns out positive.

It doesn't actually hold you or anyone else accountable for poor behavior. It's basically saying I can't help my behavior, because my nature is in and of itself bad, therefore you shouldn't expect anything else from me. You are saying you will not or cannot change yourself or your circumstances. This just isn't true.

Framing was really important for me. It's totally okay to say, This is how I'm feeling right now, to another person, while still knowing that the way you feel in a moment doesn't reflect reality. I would never think the things I think about myself, about other people. (With a few obvious well earned exceptions. I think we all know who I'm talking about LOL)

You deserve to be loved, you deserve grace, and it starts with you.