And to be clear, I'm saying that as a white woman. I want to scream at other white women, "What the fuck is wrong with you?" but I already know the answer to that question.
Whiteness and racism matter more than other concerns. White women live in the same racist fucked up subculture that their white reactionary husbands and white reactionary male relatives do. They're part of the problem too.
Supporting whiteness and racism matters more than any other consideration.