to expand on aid:
if i read the EO correctly it seems that groups that receive government money will be forced to accept its definitions. ie. anything semi-touching on trans anything will be cut if the group wants government money.
this is where i grew up. my school, church, etc. all refused any sort of government aid because to do so meant playing by their rules.
we were always fundraising. growing up, i sold so much random stupid stuff to anybody that i could that, i believe, it ruined future me on ever being able to make a buck.
make an organization and funnel bake sale money into it and then dole out the money for aid. sell cookbooks, chocolate, trinkets, flowers by the side of the road, anything and everything.
the key is to find the line between legitimate fundraising and being a grifting asshole.
regardless, the ultimate goal is to help the community function and continue on.