@ben for what it's worth, nearly every Dutch IT posting will sponsor. Other technical roles are quite likely as well under the kennismigrant (knowledge migrants) visa. Ind.nl has help in English on what qualifies.
While the Netherlands has its own problems and plenty of RW jerks like everywhere, the laws have been progressive around sex and gender since about 1811, give or take.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBTQ_rights_in_the_Netherlands