Anyway, to wrap up a long and somewhat self-involved thread:
My heart goes out to Gaiman's victims.
My heart goes out to those who considered him a friend, who knew nothing, who feel betrayed, who are now grieving the friend they thought they had now that they knew he never existed except as the mask a monster wore.
(And for those who knew, & turned a blind eye, & stayed silent, & knowingly preserved the monster's mask: I have no words strong enough to express my disgust and horror.)