What I'm saying though is that I think it's really important to embrace and experience the sadness when someone dies. A lot of people just want to stop hurting, but I think this is wrong. We have to see the pain as a gift that helps makes us better. I'm much more afraid of suppressing it, even on accident. Too much distraction and escapism can really mess us up. Not that one should hyperfocus on it either. I just mean don't consider the feelings something inherently bad. That's the way I see it.