this is not a case of "being blackpilled" you just overdosed on the "blackpill".

what you call self respect is actually just your ego talking.

making concessions and doing things out of your way for your wife is not "emasculating".
marriage is a pact of love, you married this woman, because she is your other half, because you love her.
her wanting to go to a specific place every now and then or dragging you to places you don't usually like isn't grounds for you to just leave her.
just as your wife would go to places she doesn't like with you, or participate in things she doesn't care about, or goes out of her way for you, you have duty to do the same.

this is not even something specific to marriage either, this is foundational to any social relationship on any level.

when my friends ask me for help and i do, it's not because i am a useful tool to them, i gladly do it because i know that when i need help with something, they'd do it gladly too.

if you do not understand/agree with this concept, you out yourself as an anti-social lonely bastard.

you stay around with your wife (even in an outing to the shopping mall[LMAO if you find this damning]), because you love your wife and enjoy her presence, she does the same for the exact same reason.

this veneer of trying to aspire for a "trad" ideal of a man needs to end, even the greatest men we idolize shudder when their wife yells at them.
is it because they are actually cowards with no backbone?
no, it's because it's their wife, WHO THEY LOVE, and for many that love was the REASON and RESOLVE that compelled them to reach the heights they did.

when you live a life for yourself and only yourself, you are closer to a monkey, who has no higher purpose in life other than your self interest-based, and insecurity driven "success".

and the only reason you can justify yourself with this mindset, is because in your total ignorance of actual socially developed humans, combined with your own failings of your soul, you project your retarded and rotten personality to every other human you meet.

you say you are "playing the game", because you realize that it's actually hard for you to grow up and make concessions.

you choose women based on metrics, who you would betray in a heartbeat, because making concessions is too much for you.
maybe you did meet a woman who you knew deep down you could absolutely be around happily for the rest of your life, but she wasn't pretty, ugly even, she may have had a few weird things about her, she may have been disabled, or had a screeching voice, or a mental illness that made her irrational.
you knew to some level that that was the woman of your life, but you were scared what other people would think of you, or maybe you just "deserve better", this is cowardice speaking, not standards.

guess what, your punishment is having the only women you """bond with""" being equally self-centered, who also picked you based on metrics, who would throw you away the second she met a man who fits those metrics better.
and when it does happen, and it will, you just cry about it and then nag on about how women discard men for giving her "the ick".

there is no personal growth done, no higher purpose in life, just keeping that lifestyle and rotten mindset of "damn, women are all the same".

so the best solution you can think of is having the man be just the say all end all in a "marriage" where the woman is essentially just a slave to her husband.

not so different to how "the only thing a woman wants is a man who just buys everything for her, and doesn't talk back"

the reason women don't like you isn't because you don't look good enough, or maybe because you are too short or have too little money.
it is a fundamental flaw in your very soul that outs any woman to your egoistic, self-absorbed nature.

to put it into other words, you are not a man, you are a boy, you are a whining baby who doesn't accept that you won't get everything in life perfectly handed out to you because of a few tiny concessions, so you keep complaining.

you will never be satisfied, you will not experience love, nor will you attain "greatness", you will lead an empty life filled with nothing but loneliness and spite, and unless you reflect upon it and grow the fuck up, it will stay like this till the grave.