@GuyDudeman no, my answer is: when multiple people politely tell you that your pattern of behavior is racist, the right thing to do is apologize and do some own research.
Anti-racism is not about making white dudes like us feel comfortable, but about making people who do not look like us not having to deal with racism. Conscious and unconscious.
Your behavior is indistinguishable from conscious racist sealioning. What you do with this information is up to you.