The mother in law asked us to go visit them in Arizona (they winter there) and I very quickly shut that idea down. I'm not risking my safety or travelling to places where people vote against my human rights.
I found this which was compiled pre-election, but my still be helpful, in case you get asked to go to a red state.
https://www.safehome.org/data-lgbtq-state-safety-rankings/
Arizona got an F. Now that she has two newly out LGBTQ grandchildren I really wish she'd educate herself on the issues.