@Maven except that more than once i gave my email (navi@vlhl.dev) and people went "don't you mean gmail"?

the email analogy only works with techy folks and older folks that lived thru the pre-gmail era

and that's besides the point, "choosing" a home server is an issue, most people don't wanna have to chose one. and even after that it's hard when you can't talk to your friend anymore bc your admin and theirs got into a fight and fediblocked each other

structural problems that can't be solved by explaining the protocol