My first experience in the world was be non-consentually gendered. Before my umbilical cord was cut, medical professionals had decided how they would gender me. Everyone else followed. I was not given a chance to consent to that gendering and the role that came with it. I was not given a chance to say no.
That act of violence came with further coercion. I was conscripted to follow the rules of the gender that was forced on me, and those rules included gaslighting myself about who I was; any deviation from the role I was assigned was to be shamed at a minimum.
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