how many times am i gonna ask this damn question but I REALLY NEED A GOOD IRC SERVER THAT

1. IS NOT THE BIG ONES (i.e. no libera, no rizon, etc)

2. IS AT LEAST SOMEWHAT ACTIVE (i.e. not filled with nothing but idlers who are about as meaningful as mirror dwellers in VRChat)

3. IS HOSTED BY A FEDI USER WHO IS NOT A MASTODONGER (preferably)

4. IS ACTUALLY WORTH A SHIT (doesn't matter if it's tightknit or not, it still has to treat me with actual fucking respect)

please tag me if you've got any good picks, thanks.
btw don't go something among the likes of "ERM ACKSHUALLY IRC IS DEAD. GO USE XMPP OR SOME OTHER ENCRYPTED PROTOCOL INSTEAD 🤓☝️" as well.