Wall-of-text alert, pondering Fediverse software options.

Background: I moved from a community fediverse server (bsd.network) to my own a while back. This was because of a truly unfortunate defederation decision that split the group of FreeBSD people that I cared to interact with roughly in half. To this day, I vehemently disagree with the decision and feel that it was unjustified.

Anyway, In theory the switch was easy enough. But that lead to choices of software to run. And there's the rub. They all have major pros/cons. And some are truly Major cons to all of them.

In summary: whatever you pick, you picked the wrong one.

And on top of that, now you have to maintain it. The one I'm using appears to be on the path to abandonware (the primary developer has a new stack), and I'm looking to move, again.

The teaser is that it might be possible to keep my post and comment history if I tweak a bunch of database migration scripts and stay within the pleroma universe. Maybe. It's far from a given. Anyway, of those my least-terrible choices seem to be pleroma itself (which also seems to be on the downward trend for development) or perhaps Akkoma (which appears to be picking up rather than declining).

Going to one of the mastodon stacks is a "safe" choice, but I dislike mastodon for many reasons. And obviously a start-from-scratch.

There's many others too, but many of them tend to be focused on a particular niche that don't make them a good fit for me.

Ultimately, what I want is a simple text-centric twitter-like UI/UX with decent local search and reply-thread back-fill capabilities. What I'm using now has that.

So, my quandary. For a replacement, do I:

* suck it up and build a personal Mastodon in spite of my disklike of it? (at least that way I could know its not going away any time soon.)
* go back from a pleroma fork to pleroma-base?
* chase pleroma fork-of-the-month, presumably Akkoma?
* Another fedi stack entirely that still meets my needs, perhaps one that's not on my radar? (Suggestions?)
* Move to a server run by somebody else and ignore having been burned by bsd.network?
* Give up and perhaps go to bluesky or threads?
* Twitter (mentioned for comedy value only.)

I am really loathe to move to a server run by somebody else.

Akkoma has some really nice features that I like (but don't need), eg: automatic continuous language translation (eg: I'd see all the French/Spanish/Portugese/etc posts already translated for me). But the present forced-migration is still stinging and I really don't want to discover that I need to re-migrate again in a few years.

Thoughts? I feel like this is all compromises and tradeoffs. Is there an obvious solution I'm missing?