@drewdevault @leon_p_smith @jonathan Coming back to an earlier point, I do think sometimes, some people jump to the conclusion of "X is offending me = X must be bad" (black-and-white thinking), when in 99% of cases X doesn't realise what they're doing. This is especially the case with neurodivergents.
I've yet to have a private exchange with another ND about a minor behavioural issue which didn't end with "I'm sorry, I didn't realise" and the group being Generally OK(tm) after that.