@drewdevault neurodiversity is orthogonal to being an asshole. I learned that the hard way, be very careful not to excuse all asshole-ish behaviour with "it's just their mental problems", or they'll use it against you and you'll end up stepping on the rusty nails they left pointing face-up on the living-room floor you both frequently walk through barefoot despite you SPECIFICALLY telling them not to, and then they'll try to gaslight you and act like you're crazy.