You're looking at this from an abstract perspective of "there are people shitting up the tag!"
We're looking at this from a personal perspective of — most of the aid posts I've seen went untended, and as a result some of those fediverse posters were placed in emotional, physical, tangible harm, some of them possibly died or were killed.
That is why there is anger and frustration here. You can all afford to spend a LOT of money on a gesture while people suffer and die.