@kithrup It was 1995 when C & I first went to a convention as a couple. It was a small goth one, in a caravan park, with Terry as GoH.
We got chatting in the bar, and at one point Terry asked her 'Have you told him yet?'
To which her answer was 'No'
He very nobly/cruelly said no more. And I was in an agony of ignorance until the point that I read the passage where the Witches are visiting Mrs Palm, and the line comes up 'Why Colette, what fascinating earrings'