As a woman whose male spouse is in this kind of position, having your family back against the wall in this way also pushes you into one of two directions (leaving aside the not so secret third one): to assent, at least with your own choices and your own hours, to be uncompensated support for corporate man lifestyle, or to throw down and go just as hard, forcing a more even negotiation and division of labor and basically leaving your kids with the husk of your presence and the 'comforting' idea that money is love