Why am I surrounded either by misogynistic people or by misandrists?

Females, even my own damn partners, sometimes tell me that they are fucking afraid of me because I'm a male??

FYI I am literally the softest boy to walk on this planet. I am so feminine that despite being completely straight, I get assumptions that I'm gay all the time.
The last time I hurt somebody physically was like literally never my entire life, I rebelled against going to karate lessons as a kid because I would cry if I had to punch my friend, so instead I would sneak out the back door before the lesson started to go skateboarding instead.

Also, whenever I make the slightest mistake of - god forbid - forgetting something (or similar), it's never "oh it's okay, happens to everyone", it's always "yeah, men, amirite?"
These are my fucking partners. Both of them. At the same fucking time. This is like the most toxic thing in our relationship.

On the other hand, if I want a break from all the misandry and being judged for having testicles, I can organize a "guys night" and subject myself to misogyny.
"Yeah, women, amirite?"

There is literally no middle ground. It's everywhere I go. Women against men, and men against women. My partners, my friends, my family, colleagues, random fucking strangers, everyone around me. Fucking give me a break.

I'm so fucking sick of this. These people are acting like kindergarteners where the boys pick on the girls and vice versa. Except these are adult fucking people.