It would be really helpful if my fellow white people could understand and acknowledge that we are all raised in a system of white supremacy, like like our parents and grandparents and great grandparents. If a Person of Color tells you your words or actions are contributing to/perpetuating white supremacy, they are not saying you are a horrible person or consciously racist. They are pointing out a fact which they recognize based on a lifetime of experience. Don't get defensive. Just LISTEN.