When I was maybe 11 or 12, I had this experience:

I was helping my grandfather one cold day do work outside. Was very hungry and waited for him to finally say it was time for lunch. When we went into the kitchen, nothing was prepared, as was per the usual. Grandpa didn't check on Grandma to see if she was okay. No, what he said was, "Well, I guess mom doesn't have anything ready", and out the door he went, and there went my chance for lunch.

Even at that age, I knew how to find something to eat. But, he thought it best to be upset with the situation.

The moral is, when a person subjugates another, they subjugate themselves to the will of that person. I learned to never do what he did. To this day, I expect no one to do for me, because I refuse to be so terribly put out as my grandfather was that day.