I'm the oldest of 5 siblings (& also the oldest of um 32 cousins)
All my siblings have mortgages & seem like they have passed most of the practical exams of adulting.
I've rented most of my life & have often been a mess financially.
I mostly don't worry about whether they think I'm a fuck-up, & I don't think they've judged me. (Especially not this brother in particular)
But I have felt a little insecure & envious sometimes.
So I'm kinda proud of being a homeowner & excited to show off a bit