@strypey Excellent post/thread. I really struggle with this. The failure comes at the point of recognising that the exchange has shifted from good faith to bad. I've reached the point where I'm in the process of adding to my morning reminders a list of negative behaviours I will spot, so that every day I am reminded they exist and to try to recognise them quickly, but I suspect I will still miss some. Is there anything that has worked well for you on recognising these situations quickly?